Comfort zones are nice, warm, squishy and they allow us to feel safe. They can also be limiting, boring, energy draining vs expanding, energising and uplifting. We stick with what we know so that we don’t trigger our fear of failure or something similar. But ask yourself, did you really want it? Or were you pursuing what you already know because going after what you really want / desire is scary.. Better to have tried and failed than never tried at all huh? What’s the worst that can happen? That comfort zone will always be there for you so why not leave it for a while..

We’ve all had them.. those sleepless nights where you simply cannot get back to sleep. A trillion thoughts spinning around in your mind in an endless loop. These nights can be tortuous or perhaps they can be used to start creating a better life for yourself. It’s much nicer and kinder to spend 3 hours of nightly awake time pondering changes you might like to make than staying trapped in a realm of what if scenarios that haven’t even happened. I know which I would prefer…

Music has always been my ‘go to’ during hard times. It helps me get into my body, to feel alive.. There is nothing better than putting on your headphones, turning up the volume and feeling your whole body come alive to your favourite song. Sometimes it’s the only time I feel really free. No one else around and I just dance my heart out. My own mini night club. No matter what, I always have a smile on my face.. Why not give it a go and see how your natural energy increases.. I recommend it

You’re just about to take a chance on yourself, to say yes to that opportunity or to do something outside of your comfort zone….and then you hesitate, freeze and start doubting yourself. What if x, y or z happens… but what about if you jump in with both feet and have some faith in yourself. Believe that you can handle whatever life throws at you.. Perhaps on the other side of that fear are new friends waiting to meet you, new hobbies that you never believed you could enjoy and perhaps you sleep better that night because you conquered a fear and feel a little bit better about yourself.. Be brave.. you’ve got this !!!

In a nutshell – we are lost and I mean lost in all senses of the word. We’ve lost our moral compass especially. If you just take social media as an example, it’s now acceptable to send comments online towards a person without any regard for the impact.

When I asked this question for myself, I was given the answer ‘why not start with the things that you don’t enjoy as that’s easier to list and gets it out of the way’. So I recommend starting there. Write down all the things that you don’t like doing. Be careful not to write down all the things that hold an emotion. 

Let’s face it, life is accelerating and it’s not much fun at times. We’re expected to be available 24/7, to live the most extraordinary lives with the most extraordinary people in the most extraordinary places on earth. Oh and don’t forget to record, blog, stream and photograph every single second of it whilst still earning a living and commuting to work. 

Are there parts of yourself that you would rather others not see or know about? These parts have many names: 'the shadow self', 'disowned parts'... The way to true freedom of living is to recognise and integrate these parts of yourself... 

We can all learn from each others experiences of life. These are shared in the hope that others may be able to relate to and receive the words within..

My name is Nicola Hibberd. Nice to e-meet you :) Little bit of info about myself and how I came to find myself on this journey of self discovery..